One of the deepest regrets I have when it comes to parenting is not instilling the importance of good manners. Yes, I did teach my children to use Please and Thank You but somewhere along the way common courtesy got pushed aside. I wish I had pressed further – pressed harder. I work in a school district and some of the kids can be very polite. They say “Thank You”. One even says, “Have a Great Rest Of Your Day.” But some students feel that the world owes them. It’s the entitlement…..
One of the first places we can teach them about thinking about others is with their siblings. I wish I had taught my son to open the door for his sisters. Maybe even his mom! LOL! That is one trait that would carry on throughout his life.
I wish I would have made them refer to my husband and I or any other adult as “Sir” or “Ma’m”. Instilling respect is a lost art. The South seems to have a corner on that market. For awhile I worked with a nursing agency and once I went to visit an elderly black client. When he answered every question with “Yes, Ma’m” or “No Ma’m, I was pleasantly surprised. Not that I thought someone of color could not be polite. Instead I thought, “Wow, what if every one was like this? Why did I not teach my children this?”
Because my kids are already in the “Old Dog Won’t Learn The New Trick” age, I thought maybe I would pass it along and hopefully someone else can benefit from a lesson I have learned.