Encourage Your Husband

The steaks were sizzling on the grill and I joyfully anticipated the look on my husband’s facewhen he saw the deer steaks I had finally made for him. Hearing the phone ring, I hurried inside to answer. It was Norm’s supervisor, “Kyle”, calling him in early to his scond shift job due to a minor crisis and Kyle thinking my husband would appreciate the overtime. With a sinking heart, I realized he would miss the special lunch I had prepared for him. As he hurried around the house preparing for work, he seemed agitated with Kyle and his management skills. With a quick kiss, he grabbed his lunch box and was out the door leaving my preschooler and I to enjoy his special lunch by ourselves. Somehow the joy had been taken out of it.
Then I thought about my husband who must have been tired and disapppointed. I knew, the way he exited, that tonight may not be a good night for him, but instead, a busy, exhausting one. I knew the added stress of taking care of new problems presented were not going to go well.

It was at that time I remembered Sunday, when, due to inclement weather, he was deprived of overtime and had expressed that disappointment. That was when I felt the tug of the Holy SPirit to send him a message so I dug out my cell phone and sent the following, “Before you get angry with Kyle, consider this: Maybe God did this because you lost your overtime on Sunday.” Then I hit “Send” and hoped he’d receive it with a receptive heart.

I knew this really was of the Spirit because normally I probably would have moped and pouted because of a spoiled special dinner, but, instead, I obeyed the SPirit’s call to encourage my husband. I have been learning lately that it is a wise wife who will “encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfullness.” (Heb. 3:13)

I just heard God telling me to encourage him in love and deeds and in my impromtu Word Bible Study on Encouragement, I found the verse from 1 Thess. 4:18. “Therefore encourage each other with these words. ” There are so many instructions in the Bible for encouraging others. Many forget that also pertains to their spouse. How can you encourage your husband today?

More verses on encouragement:

Job 16:5…But my mouth would encourage you; comfort from my lips would bring you relief.
Acts 15:32Judas and Silas, who themselves were prophets, said much to encourage and strengthen the brothers.

Romans 12:8…if it is encouraging, let him encourage; if it is contributing to the needs of others, let him give generously; if it is leadership, let him govern diligently; if it is showing mercy, let him do it cheerfully.

Romans 15:4…For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through endurance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.

Ephesians 6:22…I am sending him to you for this very purpose, that you may know how we are, and that he may encourage you.

1 Thessalonians 5:11…Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.

1 Thessalonians 5:14…And we urge you, brothers, warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone.

Titus 2:6…Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled

Titus 2:15…These, then, are the things you should teach. Encourage and rebuke with all authority. Do not let anyone despise you.

Philemon 1:7…Your love has given me great joy and encouragement, because you, brother, have refreshed the hearts of the saints.

****Names changed for privacy purpooses.

2 thoughts on “Encourage Your Husband”

  1. Thank you for sharing your story with us. and Thank the Lord for giving you an encouraging heart 🙂
    I've posted this article on my blog also(hope you don't mind!)because I like it so much!
    May God lead you, guide you and bless you along the way!

    Sister in Christ,


  2. Thank you for posting this! I was so upset with my boyfriend but I knew that showing my anger and displeasure wouldn't help build him up. Encouragement can truly make a world of difference.


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